I really hate it when someone cuts in the line before me. It takes a lot of self-control to keep myself from dodging or pushing the person in front of me who texts or uses her (yes, most of the time it’s a girl) phone in the middle of the road at rush hour. Many times when I encounter rude or difficult people, I am amazed at how despite all the unlovable-ness of these people, someone would be able to love them and be patient with them. But then I would remember that the One who loved these people the most is Jesus – to the point that He died for them even when they didn’t deserve it or even know it.
Then I would remember that He also died for me and I also didn’t deserve it. And with a snap of a finger the truth slaps me in the face – more times than I care to admit, I have been the rude or the difficult one.
Before Christ, I was a paradox of a person. I was a nice, good girl but I would secretly destroy my cousins’ stuff when I get too annoyed with them. I was an achiever in school but drowning in self pity, always feeling that I didn’t belong. I was always the people pleaser, but in conflicts at home I wouldn’t listen to my sibling’s side of the story. I was one confused, lost pastor’s kid.
It’s true enough that one cannot be born a Christian. One has to be born again. I remember kneeling with Mama and accepting Jesus in my heart when I was around four years old, but it was only at a TANEPABAC youth camp when I was 10 that I truly came to understand what having a relationship with Jesus means.
Ever since then, my life has changed little by little. I joined cell groups at Tarlac First Baptist Church when I was in high school and at Doulos for Christ when I was in college until well into my adulthood. Gradually I found my identity in Christ and not in my achievements or possessions (or the lack of it) – not even in my friends or social status. It’s the personal encounters and intimate quiet times as much as the big gatherings that God used to change me. I received healing from rejection as I learned that Christ died so that I would be accepted in God’s family. I realized the utmost value of loving my family and being a reflection of God’s love to them.
There is still so much to be done in me. I am still a work in progress. But now I can hold on to the truth that in my weakness Christ makes me strong. In my weakness, He is my strength. Now that I am in Christ, there is joy in knowing that I am journeying toward perfection when He comes again.
I still hate it when someone cuts in the line before me. It still takes a lot of self-control to keep myself from dodging or pushing the person in front of me who texts or uses her (yes, most of the time it’s a girl) phone in the middle of the road at rush hour. But, as fleeting yet striking as a snap of a finger, I am being reminded that they are loved just as I am, needing compassion as much as I do. Even people whom I look up to, people I love, people who seem perfect to me – in Christ, they are journeying toward perfection just the way I am. When I think of it this way, it becomes a little less harder to understand, to be patient and kind, and to give grace, even forgiveness. It becomes easier to love harder.