I never knew communicating with my group mates could ever be fun and real, not until I got to know them beyond the ordinary delegation of tasks for a group project.
I never knew people would long for real conversations, not until a classmate made me see that a plain Web interface of a popular SNS, even with an updated status message on it, cannot provide a sufficient outlet for him to express all that is battling within his troubled heart.
I never knew a toxic major subject could be so fun—if the professor would just lighten up a bit and enjoy the discussion with the students, laugh a bit, give some encouragement while projecting the goals, and have fun. Sometimes, sticking to our expectations of each other limits us from exploring possibilities that would lead to new ways of achieving our goal. Sometimes, the expectation we have of each other limit us from acting like we normally do. It limits us from being human.
By the way, blogging is supposed to be easy and straight from the heart, right?
Our world today is no longer about sticking to tasks or rules or formats or expectations. We don’t have to stick with a schedule on what time we should be at school, what color of shirt to wear, how to exactly do our homework, or exactly how long we’re going to stay in school. It all goes with what we want or need depending on what day it is. It all goes with what suits us at the moment, and what our significant others’ schedules and comments have to do with it.
Whether we are Orcom practitioners in the workplace or Orcom students establishing and managing relationships at school, it no longer is the priority to know the objectives and the goals, the procedures and the default format. Rather, it’s about starting a conversation—and keeping it to nurture a connection, a relationship. Be it relating to a group mate or a co-worker, the aim is to start a talk and accomplish your personal or work in the process. Be it accomplishing a comm blog or a project at work, we have to capitalize on the stories that would link us to other people—because it’s no longer all about ourselves after all. It’s about to whom else we are connected, about something else aside from ourselves that will help accomplish the work.
Funny how the Me generation—the impatient, demanding generation—finds out in itself that it’s not about ourselves, it’s about others as well. It’s the Me generation who experiences the freedom from formal rules and the creativity to express one’s self, but at the same time, it’s the Me generation who’s named the Net Gen, the one who forwards the wave of collaborating, the age of connections and conversations. We now gain the power to further our own interests and engage where we want to, whenever we want. But at the same time, we carry all the more the need to stay linked to other people. As the times emphasize the power of the individual, it highlights even more that the individual is not an entity in itself—that it has always co-existed in a network of individuals, which enables it to thrive at its maximum potential.
“Our lives are not our own.”